So, how good are you?
The question I always dread, even more so than "What kind of music do you play", is "So, how good are you, really?"
Back in the 70s I decided that I'd play for myself and not worry about what other people think. That was after my basic influences had already taken hold from the late 60s and early 70s pop, hard rock and psychedelic rock.
Ironically, I saw John McLaughlin up close and personal at a free show in the UMass student union ballroom that same year... He is to this day one of my favorite guitarists. His technique is always in service of the music. I'm not impressed by McLaughlin's speed (which is considerable) but rather by his note choice, phrasing, arrangements, etc. I certainly don't think of McLaughlin as a "shredder". Right or wrong, I reserve that term for the folks who can play a million forgettable notes in a minute.
I play in two bands that have very different styles. In both cases, I work hard at playing in a way that serves the song. I personally think I'm a good player, and I've been told as much by musicians and audience members alike. But... I know I could be better, and I practice.
I also write. Sometimes entire songs, but mostly melodic and harmonic (and less often, rhythmic) ideas that I can bring to the groups' writing process.